The submissive man…

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Its the 21st century where women are getting involved in jobs that are normally meant for men and only men, we have different examples such as military, engineering, politics etc
Let’s start with politics, look at the world today women are starting to win elections and it fascinating how this has really help the world, in Brazil the president is a woman Dilma Rousseff. Already the world leading power that is USA already have a female politician in Hillary Clinton who is already gaining stand in her bid to win the next election
Hillary Clinton seems to be preparing to run for president, and the former Hewlett-Packard CEO Carly Fiorina may yet enter the race on the Republican side. Whoever wins the White House in 2016, today it seems easily possible that within the next decade, the U.S. will follow Britain, Germany, Brazil, Argentina, India, Israel, Thailand, Norway and dozens of other countries in electing a woman to our most powerful office

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any man who isn’t ready to overlook the weakness that come with submissiveness may have problem with the marriage with his woman “Our women today are of a different breed. Our women today are not really like our mothers. The average woman today is not as submissive as their mothers and a guy who is not ready to overlook that weakness would have a problem with marriage. These days you have to argue and defend your views and if it goes well, all parties can then agree. It shouldn’t be that way; there is a certain measure of honor a woman must give a man as the head.

the women of these days are busy making money and want to express their own voice. “I think is majorly because they have become their own people. They are as educated as you are; they are working as you are working, they are earning money and you are, they have a world view like you have. They are empowered now and have their own voice and want to express.
Well for me i want the kind of relationship my Dad enjoyed…… To be continued

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Educational studies “Cinematography class of 2014/2015. Caleb University Imota Lagos.

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THE FACELESS CINEMA

The cinema, most recreational place to be. “I love the movies!” ever wondered how the cinema works? Ever wondered how you get to see those movies on that big screen? Ever wondered why you pay to watch movies you can download? If you have that curious mind, then you win a gate pass to the journey of the faceless cinema.
The cinema in Nigeria can be dated far back as the 90’s. In fact, Lagosians were the first to experience motion picture entertainment in Nigeria, at the Glover Memorial Hall (public screening), August 12 to 22 1903, by Herbert Macaulay. One of the earliest cinema operators was the West African Pictures Company owned by Mr. S. Khalil, a foreigner.
There were about 12 cinema houses in lagos, before the independence, these cinema houses are namely, Rex cinema, Rialto Cinema, Glover Hall, Ikeja Arms cinema, Rex and Odeon cinema, Road House cinema, Capitol cinema, Regal cinema, Corona cinema, kings cinema, Central cinema, Royal cinema. It is of importance to note that foreigners dominated the cinema business as of that time. Many indigenous entrepreneurs found it difficult to invest in the cinema business because they did not know the Nitti gritty of the business and also lacked capital.
As a result of more filmmakers producing movies. The rebirth of the cinema in Nigeria gives credence to the fact that the cinema business has a lot of prospects in lucrative ventures. Silverbird Cinemas for example expanded its operations from Lagos to other parts of Nigeria and West Africa sub region as well. Lagos has grown to attain the status of a mega city and as such proves to be a fertile ground for business to thrive, and so creates opportunities for investors and would-be investors to invest in the cinema business in Nigeria. There are majorly three main cinema in Lagos as of today, these are, Silverbird Cinemas, Ozone cinemas and Film house cinema.
Just as foreign movies attempts to dominate the cinemas, Nigerian movies with producers such Tunde kelani, kunle afolayan, e.t.c have made Nigerian movies prominent in the cinemas today. We hear of blockbuster Nollywood films such as Ije, October 1, dazzling mirage, 30 days in Atlanta e.t.c as selling movies in the cinema.
Enough of the history, back to the present, there have been an interesting insight on how the cinema works; this ranges from how the movies are sourced for, how audiences are pulled to issues they face and how they overcome them, concluding with the facts on managing the staffs at a cinema organisation and so much more. Let the journey continue:
We are certain you wonder how cinemas get movies void of piracy. Piracy is a major challenge to the industry of today, well there are legalised distributors of movies in Nigeria and in West Africa sub region that distribute foreign and Nollywood films to Nigeria cinemas.
From inception to the year 2012, analogue projectors were used in screening movies at the cinema, Silverbird Cinemas in Ikeja were the first to break the invention by adopting digital projector in screening film in the whole of West Africa. This technological invention has helped reduce piracy.
Before recent times, it the train of thoughts for cinemas, was that it was meant for the upper class. The big boys and big girls in town were like the major audience for the cinema, and the ticket price was a bit high on the range.
Silverbird cinemas, started at victorial island with 2,000 naira as the ticket price, but over time had to reduce the price to #1,500 on weekends, #1,000 in week days and also create promo like free popcorn and a bottle of drink alongside. With subsidy for students and kids, larger audience patronized the cinema.
All thanks to the software ticketing process already programmed to help control the crowd at the cinema hall. Buying of tickets has been made easy, as it is made available online, one can get tickets at the comfort of their homes. In a situation, where all the seats are taken in a hall for a particular movie, other people waiting to see same movie, will be allocated a different time to see view the movie. This of course we all know how it works at the cinema. “I’ll see ije at 2.00pm then”
The cinema in itself looks all well planned and organised and seems like the water is moving smoothly, but of course we all know the water has to be troubled at some point. The cinema is also faced with challenges that are sometimes beyond control. Issues such as the film rating by the censor board of Films in Nigeria; in most cases, films are not appropriately rated, in fact we have instances where, some animated films, which are obviously known as attraction to kids are rated for adults. This disrupts the viewership at screening halls. And in some what affects the sales of movies. The basic solution we can see to this would be from the government, and the censor board to function properly. A funny fact about the cinema is that its revenue is not really generated from selling of tickets, but, sales at the concession department.
Many at times I wonder why the sales personnel at the box office is so nice, or why the securities can be so polite that I’ll start feeling really important. Of course, I am that important because I’m a customer. They are so caring because they are given incentives as motivations. You can imagine when my health bills are already covered, if I work harder I get extra pay, I get to see movies for free, free meals and on-time paid salary. It would really take a nut to make me cranky. This is really a painstaking action on the management of cinema. But it has to be done to encourage more efficiency from the staffs, this goes a long way in reflecting to customers being attended to by the staffs.
The whole gamut of the cinema is strangely interestingly fun to learn about. We hope this little research has helped in adding to your knowledge.
RESEARCHERS:
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Aiteobhor Josephine
Emetu Goodness
Aroh Nicole
Osisami Gbolahan
WRITTEN BY:
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Aiteobhor Josephine
EDITED BY 
Aiteobhor Josephne.

The joy of being a woman

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I always tell my daughters its better to be a girl than a boy.  Girls get to have babies, for example.  Girls are usually potty-trained sooner.  Girls don’t throw things quite as often as boys (but when they do, they mean it).  Girls like to talk things out, boys are comfortable “taking it outside.”  Everyone knows girls remember the details of conversations better than boys…I digress.

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But I can tell you when it may not feel better to be a girl (woman) than a man: when your parts fall out.  

Pelvic organ prolapse is when your uterus, bladder, rectum, vaginal walls, or any combination, fall out.  Thanks to damage from childbirth, years of gravity, and often the hormonal changes of menopause (though it can happen before menopause), the female pelvic organs start to protrude past the vaginal opening.  Sometimes this happens when a woman is up and active-walking, gardening, playing tennis, etc. Sometimes a woman can feel things protruding virtually all of the time, and she actually needs to use her fingers to push things back up inside. 

It really is not a comfortable sensation, but women live with it, and in fact, have often had symptoms for quite some time before coming to see a doctor.  They often delay coming in because they feel this is quite abnormal, and they may even feel embarrassed and often they ask if anyone else has ever had this?  Have I ever seen this before?  Well, I see it all the time, its very common.    Sometimes I actually have patients who are friends with each other come in for this same complaint saying they’ve never heard of this-I want to say “call your friend!”  but of course, I can’t because it’s all confidential.

Pelvic organ prolapse can be relieved by a variety of things-a device called a pessary, which is kind of like a diaphragm, that holds things up inside the vagina.  Sometimes prolapse requires surgery. Kegel exercises can help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which help the symptoms regardless of the ultimate treatment.     

Anyway, this is a very common problem and it’s often accompanied by another joy of womanhood, stress incontinence.  Remember that first time you went on a trampoline after having a child and as you jumped up-whoops, there it was-a little leak!  Incontinence also can be helped: with behavioral changes, medications and sometimes surgery.  Hormone therapy can also often be helpful.

The reality is, this is something women have to deal with as they get older.  It really can be quite a bummer and unfortunately it is quite common.  However, there are options for relieving the symptoms that your doctor can discuss with you, so that you can continue to enjoy all those wonderful activities in your life that you enjoy!

Technology the cause of isolation

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ISOLATION

Much has been written about the dangers of Internet addiction. From pornography to merely surfing the web, the Internet is clearly the television of the 21st century, an electronic drug that often yanks us away from the physical world. Like any addiction, the real cost, for those of us who are truly addicted, is to the number and quality of our relationships with others. We may enjoy online relationships using social media sites like Facebook or Twitter, for example, but the difference between these kinds of interactions and interactions with people in the physical world is clearly vast. As long as we expect no more from these online relationships than they can give, no good reason exists why we can’t enjoy the power of social media sites to connect us efficiently to people we’d otherwise not touch. The problem, however, comes when we find ourselves subtly substituting electronic relationships for physical ones or mistaking our electronic relationships for physical ones. We may feel we’re connecting effectively with others via the Internet, but too much electronic-relating paradoxically engenders a sense of social isolation.

DANGERS

Making our meaning clear electronically presents extra challenges. For example, we write things like “LOL” and “LMOA” to describe our laughter, but they’re no real substitute forhearing people laugh, which has real power to lift our spirits when we’re feeling low.

I’ve also observed people using electronic media to make confrontation easier and have seen more than one relationship falter as a result. People are often uncomfortable with face-to-face confrontation, so it’s easy to understand why they’d choose to use the Internet. Precisely because electronic media transmit emotion so poorly compared to in-person interaction, many view it as the perfect way to send difficult messages: it blocks us from registering the negative emotional responses such messages engender, which provides us the illusion we’re not really doing harm. Unfortunately, this also usually means we don’t transmit these messages with as much empathy, and often find ourselves sending a different message than we intended and breeding more confusion than we realize.

As a result, I’ve made it a rule of thumb to limit my email communications as much as possible to factual information only. If I need to work something out with someone that feels difficult, uncomfortable, or unpleasant, I make myself communicate in person. In-person interactions, though more difficult, are more likely to result in positive outcomes and provide opportunities for personal growth. Whenever I hear stories of romantic break-ups, firings, or even arguments going on electronically, I cringe. We find ourselves tempted to communicate that way because it feels easier—but the outcome is often worse.

ETIQUETTE

For transferring information efficiently, the Internet is excellent. For transacting emotionally sensitive or satisfying connections, it’s not. My wife and I joke that we use email messaging when we’re sitting back-to-back in our home office, but we use it to keep a record of our schedule. When we have a conflict, we turn our chairs around and talk.

Even when we’re all careful to use the Internet only to exchange information, problems can still arise. People tend to delay answering emails when they don’t have what they consider to be good answers or when they want to avoid whatever responsibility the email demands of them. But this is like being asked a question in person and rather than responding, “I don’t know” or “I’ll have to think about it,” turning on your heels and walking away in silence. It’s far easier to ignore an email sender’s request than a request from someone made in person because an email sender’s hope to get a response or frustration in not receiving one remains mostly invisible. But it’s every bit as rude.

Our “emotional invisibility” on the Internet perhaps also explains so much of the vitriol we see on so many websites. People clearly have a penchant for saying things in the electronic world they’d never say to people in person because the person to whom they’re saying it isn’t physically present to display their emotional reaction. It’s as if the part of our nervous system that registers the feelings of others has been paralyzed or removed when we’re communicating electronically, as if we’re drunk and don’t realize or don’t care that our words are hurting others.

Social media websites are wonderful tools but are often abused. A few common sense rules for the electronic world apply:

Don’t say anything on email you’d feel uncomfortable saying to someone in person. If it needs saying but feels awkward, do it in person. Look upon it as practice for handling confrontation maturely. Consider yourself drunk every time you get online so that you take steps to monitor yourself carefully. If you find yourself tempted to behave like a boor, step away from your keyboard (you wouldn’t drive drunk, would you?).Don’t delay your response to messages you’d rather avoid. If someone has reached out to you, they care about your response. I’m sometimes guilty of this one myself, but I’m working on it.Relationships are affected by online communication. It’s much easier to injure friendships online than in person because of the ease of creating creating misunderstandings electronically. Non-verbal communication, after all, (argued by to some to represent up to 40% of our in-person communication) is completely absent. Be careful how you word every electronic message you send, in whatever context. Remember that every Internet message you send becomes a permanent part of your brand (whether you’re trying to market something or not).Balance time on the Internet with time spent with friends and family. It may seem too obvious to mention, but it feels qualitatively different to go out to dinner with friends than to spend several days engaged in back-and-forth email exchanges. So much communication and meaning is lost in the latter. And our effect on one another is much more intense when we meet in person. When a friend is going through a rough time, nothing substitutes for in-person communication. A gentle smile or a heartfelt hug has far more power than the cleverest emoticon to lift another person’s spirits.

CONCLUSION

The Internet is an amazing tool. But even as it’s shrunk the world and brought us closer together, it’s threatened to push us further apart. Like any useful tool, to make technology serve us well requires the exercise of good judgment. For whatever reason, the restraints that stop most of us from blurting out things in public we know we shouldn’t seem far weaker when our mode of communication is typing. Unfortunately, typed messages often wound even more gravely, while electronic messages of remorse paradoxically have little power to heal. Perhaps we just don’t think such messages have the same power to harm as when we we say them in person. Perhaps in the heat of the moment without another’s physical presence to hold us back, we just don’t care. Whatever the reason, it’s clearly far easier for us to be meaner to one another online. Let’s try not to be.

Depression

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If you don’t think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. There will always be dark days.
Here is the tragedy: when you are the victim of depression, not only do you feel utterly helpless and abandoned by the world, you also know that very few people can understand, or even begin to believe, that life can be this painful.

Giles Andreae

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Do not brood over your past mistakes and failures as this will only fill your mind with grief, regret and depression. Do not repeat them in the future.

The Fulanis

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The Hausas and the Fulanis are two distinct ethnic groups found in Northern Nigeria, but they have become closely intertwined in the minds of Nigerians and the rest of the world.Hausa/Fulani is now a single term used to describe the Muslims that live in the North and form one of the three main ethnic groups in the country along with Yorubas and Igbos. It is true that the two tribes are very similar: both share a strong Islamic identity and certain customs including the Hausa language, and both groups have intermarried over centuries to almost become one. 

But the Fulanis are sometimes loathe to be grouped together with the Hausas because of pride in their own distinct and distinguished history. 

The fact that it was the Fulanis (also known as Fulbe, Puel or Fula) who brought Islam by force to the pagan/animist Hausa states in Nigeria centuries ago also gives them a sense of religious superiority. Also, the Fulanis throughout history have held leadership roles in the various Hausa communities they settled into, working as judges, teachers, emirs and clerics. 

These leadership positions continue today as most Northern presidents and heads of state in Nigeria including Umaru Yar’Adua (President from 2007 – 2010), Sir Abubakara Tafewa Balewa (Nigeria’s first Prime Minister), Shehu Shagari (President 1979 – 1983) and Aliko Dangote (Richest Black Man in the World) are of Fulani descent.

The Fulani’s traditional nomadic lifestyle of roaming the countryside in search of pasture also distinguishes them from the ‘settled’ Hausas who live in towns, although most Fulanis are now settled in towns. Fulanis also derive much of their foods like Fura da Nono(Millet cakes and yoghurt) and Main Shanu(savoury butter) from their cattle, unlike the Hausas.

Both Fulanis and Hausa women wear henna dye on their hands and men and women from both tribes in rural areas often have dark facial tattoos, but Fulani men traditionally wear wide-brimmed straw hats with a pointed top, loose kaftan and shorts/trousers and carry sticks when herding; whilst the women’s traditional costume is a white midriff-exposing top and matching wrapper with pastel coloured patterns. But like Hausa women, they ordinarily dress modestly in headscarves, covered tops and wrappers made using African print material. Its think like ray i bet you
Fulanis are beautiful….. 😁😁😁